Editor's Note: The 'No Shame' Rule and What It Actually Means
The cornerstone editorial standard of the Wellness Center. What we mean by 'no shame' — and why it isn't the same as 'anything goes.'
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Q&A / Editorial
Reader questions, expert columns and personal essays.
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Editor's Note: Why We Don't Use the Word "Normal"
An editor's note on why "is this normal?" is the wrong question to ask about your sex life — and what to ask instead.
Q&A: "Why Don't I Want Sex Anymore Since the Baby?"
A reader's libido vanished after the baby and hasn't returned. The honest map of what's happening, and the pieces that often help.
Reader Q&A: "I'm 47 and Just Discovered I'm Queer"
A reader at 47 has realised she's queer after decades of marriage. The honest answer about what's possible from here.
Reader Q&A: "Is It Weird That I'm Not Into Penetrative Sex?"
A reader asks if it's weird that they prefer everything except penetration. The answer: not weird, and the cultural script is misleading.
Editor's Note: On the Death of 'Natural' Desire
Why we're retiring the phrase 'natural desire' from the magazine. The framing has hurt more readers than it has helped, and there's a better
Reader Q&A: "I Don't Like Sex With My Husband Anymore"
A reader has lost desire for her husband but still loves him. The honest answer about what to examine before deciding what to do.
Reader Q&A: "I'm a Virgin at 32 and I Want to Start"
A reader is 32 and has never had sex. They want to start. Honest, practical guidance with no pity and no rush.
Editorial: South Africa's Adult Industry Is Changing (Quietly)
South Africa's adult industry is shifting in ways the mainstream barely notices — local creators, ethical platforms, and a maturing conversa
Reader Q&A: "Polyamory Works for Him, Not for Me"
A reader opened her relationship two years ago. He's flourishing. She's not. A therapist on asymmetric polyamory and the conversation owed.